There are so many different people with different personalities, different habit and that’s alright we are created different and that’s what make life more colorful, right? But despite enjoying the diversification sometimes we may meet unbelievably annoying person. It could be a gossip queen or whatever it is. And like it or not you still have to come to the office and deal with them anyway we still need a job, right? And will it be worth it if we loose our job over annoying colleagues? off course not! Then what should you do if you are in this situation?
Okay, I have an experience with super annoying person. He is not my colleagues but my studio is in a co- working space. That annoying guy, work at the office on second floor and my studio is in third floor. For me in our social life we must respect each other no matter what and having good behavior wherever I am is what my parents taught me, we may not be perfect but having good manner is a must. So back to my story, this guy doesn’t have good manner at all, he can’t respect other’s privacy. Actually what he does may be not harmful and not evil he is simply just super annoying. Can you imagine starting from the very morning he comes, he can’t stop singing and banging table, whistling the sing again while clapping he can’t stop producing all the noise in the room until the time he finishes work. Wow can you imagine how annoying and noisy it is? Especially when I super busy and I need a little peace to be more concentrate on my work. But, well it is a co working space, I am dealing with lots of different people. Is he the one who is super annoying? For sound pollution yes he is the winner. There is still one annoying person at my place, he is not that noisy, but he can’t stop smoking all day, in a non-smoking room and the smoke goes anywhere even to the third floor,my studio.
I had talk to the noisy one nicely that what he does is quite annoying for me and hopefully he can manage his noise a little bit. and to Mr. smoke I had told him that please smoke somewhere because it is not about how smelly it is but how he would damage other’s health. But what happen is both of them never change their behavior. I know some people are not taught to be well mannered but at least show some respect to others won’t be difficult in public space.
So, rather than makin scene in public space I prefer to focus on my space rather than change something I can’t change and keep make me peeved. So I put bluetooth speaker and play music I like to reduce hearing the unpleasant noise. For the smoke I can’t do anything because that no manner guy is the son of the building owner and he thinks he is so privileged. Well no I am managing to put many plants that have natural purifying effects. And also it makes my space look more pretty.
How about if this annoying person happen to be colleagues you can’t avoid? Well you should focus on the things you can manage, things you can change not focusing on things you can’t change. Focusing on them will be useless and drain your energy.
Try to focus on things you can change, things can make you happy. Maybe you can decorate your desk, invest in good headset so you can work while listening to a good music, put portable air purifier on your desk. Or maybe you are dealing with a gossip queen, try to keep distance and not engage in important conversation. Maybe you are dealing with people with inferiority complex people and drain your energy, then be nice but know your limit and don’t let the toxic they give run into the vein.
We can’t keep avoiding toxic people in our live but we can manage our feeling and behavior toward them.
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