We often hear people say, surround yourself with happy positive people because their positive vibes will surely affect you. Well it is true, imagine you are surrounded with grumpy, spiteful , full of negative vibes kind of people,, gaslighting type of people, relative who abuse you mentally or physically every time you have conversation with them, you can you imagine that? By imagining that, I’ve had already felt that my energy is draining. It is definitely the situation I will absolutely avoid.
So, setting boundaries from toxic people is necessary, we don’t need to be rude to them, we still can keep our affable personality but please set boundaries. If you have experiences with toxic people you might know how tiresome it is. They can drain your energy, they can make you have a bad day or even the can affect you mentally. Oh please don’t let ourselves being damaged mentally.
Here is what to do when you meet toxic people
Set boundaries
There are some people we can avoid such as friends we rarely meet, relatives that we meet once a year, but there are some people you can’t avoid such as your boss, colleagues, neighbors or family member you often meet. Well we can keep be friendly with them, greet them nicely but being polite and friendly doesn’t mean we have to involve in the conversation any further. Set boundaries with them, when they engage you in a conversation you don’t interested in, just free yourself using a polite excuses. Avoid the is the best way to keep your sanity.
Stop Being A People Pleaser
Being a people pleaser is different from being affable. Toxic people often take advantages from nice people. As much as we want to be a pleasant one, we don’t need to please everyone. You will be so tired if you keep to please everyone, especially with those who can’t respect you, those who mistreated your kindness. As long as wee keep a polite attitude toward toxic people, it is enough.
Save Your Precious Time
Your time is so precious, you can do many useful things with your time, so why you waste your time with people that not only damage you but also keep you away from being productive.
From what I had experiences, being around toxic people is so tiresome, it drained me, some of them often gaslight me, damage me mentally and I felt that they just waste my time and energy. At first, I didn’t realize that would stress me out, I just try to be nice to them, I tried to please them until one day I realize that I was too nice, they took advantage of me. They never felt that they were the abusers, they will always the right one and we always be wronged. So enough of those things. I chose to keep my sanity, be a nice person but set boundaries to those toxic people.
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