How To Live Less Worry Happier Life

When talking about happiness it sounds so vague and too general I think. Everyone’s idea of happiness are different from one to another. If I think deeper, it is so easy to think that we are happy, to say that ” Yes, I am happy that I got this, or I just bought that.” But is this really a real happiness you feel? Mmmmhhh….. I think it depends, everyone’s desire, satisfaction and point of view that will influence the happiness in life.

I asked may of my friends and relatives these days, “Are you happy?” Most of them replied me “No, not really.” So many problems we are dealing with these days, health problems, pandemic, business, money issues, work from home, school from home, feeling unsafe, etc.

Yes I admit these past few years we have been overwhelming with worries, unpredictable situation. Business is getting harder and harder, social issues, and many more. I always tell myself when I feel down, that in life there are two things, first one is things I can control and second is things I can’t control. Things I can control such as, working hard, planning for a better life, eat healthy, making decision, anything that I can do and I can think of. And things I can’t control such as, age, fate, when pandemic hit us hard and ruin the business, cheating spouse, anything that we got impacted with although we don’t do anything wrong.

If seeing this unprecedented situation, it makes us more and more worry. It is normal, we can’t see what’s going to happen exactly in the future we can just predict what is going to happen in the future. And every prediction can not guarantee it is likely to happen. These days has been filled with worries, but “Do you want to live more and more worry everyday?” or you want to live this life happier?

I know life is not that simple, I don’t judge people and I don’t say life is good, no problem as if I live in a perfect life too. But for me life is about enjoy every process whether I like it or not, I don’t want let all worries consume me, consume my life and happiness and do you know that most of the time what we are worried about, just happen in our mind. Not always, but mostly!

Okay, I tell myself, “Stop worrying and live a happier life!”

Do not overthinking

When having issues we tend to be overthinking, as we are human we can’t tell our brain not to think about the problem or let’s just skip this part, we can’t! But we also have to limit our mind since our brain is too smart it can’t stop working and it can wander everywhere. When we are facing one difficulties our brain often be too creative, the more you think about it the more you become overwhelm. So limit your mind, see the problem, make plan A, plan B to solve it, see it where it goes, then see the response then how to deal with it. Often things will be more simple if we simplify it, think about it is different from overthinking about it. Overthinking will lead you to a more stressful situation, your mind keep wandering everywhere think all the possibilities that might happen, the more you think the more possibilities come in your mind. It makes us more worry, more stressful without knowing that all that worries may or may not happen.

When I have problem and I keep overthinking every time, I always tell myself to stop. disadvantages that I feel from overthinking are too many, I can’t concentrate, more and more worry everyday, get so stressful, I can’t think clearly, I can’t feel joy and overall all things I worry about not always happen. So I better think of the solution and okay, stop there!

Being Mindful

Practicing mindfulness has made a big impact in my life. I become calmer and less anxious. Practicing mindfulness can’t make all my problem away. But I can feel that there’s something inside me changed. I can be less anxious, I can sleep better, I can feel happier over small things, I appreciate more little things in life and turns out all these little things I can’t think of before, give me peace and a happier days.

Focus more on gratitude than material things

Yes we need money, we need money everyday, we need money to survive and I agree that we must earn money to have a good life because all things in this world that we need, need to be bought. I am a goal oriented person. What’s in my mind is achievement, goals, achievement, goals. I don’t like when things don’t get in my way, I always work hard to be successful, and in my mind is success, goal, achievement, repeat! Then one day I felt so tired, my mind was so tired I couldn’t think of anything, my body was too tired from all the activities. So I tried to sat back and relax, then it came to my mind, “what am I looking for? I’m so tired but after all these works, effort, achievement I am not that happy.” Then after some time I realized that there is one thing that I miss, gratitude. When I can be grateful for a very little thing, it really change my mind, my feeling. Be grateful for the good and bad things. Good things off course make me happy, but bad things that happen can make us into a better one some day. Because life is a process like it or not we must go through it, but when I have gratitude I can see bad things that happened as the process I must go through to be a better me. It is easier to talk about it that do it. But making gratitude into a habit will make your life happier.

I am not a perfect person, I have so many flaws and I don’t live in a fairytale life. I have been dealing with all the imperfectness, I was bullied, cheated on, but I learn how to let go and take all things as lesson in life, because I want to live a less worry happier life!

Saying Morning Affirmation To Myself Help Me Get Through Hard Times

Lately I have been through a lot, my health condition, my business, until at some point I felt so exhausted, felt so lost and it made me think that no one can help me other than myself. I may go to see doctor, I may come to counselling, off course it helps but the greatest help the greatest motivation I realize that it comes rom yourself.

Like what I had said many times, morning take a special part to make your day. Whether its is creating a calm morning routine, having morning meditation, or any morning activity that can bring you calmness, joy so you can have a good mood for a day.

Then I have been doing this morning affirmation for a month and it helps! After I get dresses in the morning I look in the mirror and I say all good things, I appreciate myself more, I accept and be happy for who I am, so I look myself in the mirror, put a beautiful smile and tell myself that, ” I AM WORTH IT, I LOVE MY BODY ALTHOUGH IT IS NOT PERFECT, I AM GONNA HAVE A HAPPY LIFE, I AM CAPABLE TO MAKE MY BUSINESS WELL AGAIN.” I tell myself that I can cope with all the hardship.

It seems so simple, and some people may laugh at me and tell me that you just like lying to yourself to pretend to be stronger. But I know what I am doing here is not pretending to be stronger, Instead, I motivate myself to have courage to face the challenge, I accept all my imperfection and motivate myself to be a better one.

What you struggle with may be different from mine, but the idea is just the same, saying to yourself, motivate, convince yourself that you are capable of overcome the hard times you have. Motivating yourself is the best easy and cheap but effective way to help you be strong during hard times.

How To Find Real Happiness And Stop My Retail Therapy Habit That Is So Wasted ?

Happiness is often related to money. Yes we know that money is basically what we need to live this life. The more money you have the better life you get. But don’t get the wrong idea, the term of getting a better life doesn’t mean you get a happier life by having more and more money. If you are quite puzzled by what I said, let me simplify it for you. Money can’t guarantee happiness in life!

Have you ever felt so stressful and did retail therapy? I won’t say it is wrong, but the happiness you get is temporary. It is like a euphoria for having a new stuff you want than after days the sensation of having the stuff will simply just gone.

I was type of person whenever I got upset I always go shopping, I even often ended up bought things I didn’t need. Such a waste of money but highly satisfying. I know it wasn’t right but I couldn’t change this habit instantly. It took process and it was uneasy.

So, what did I do?

I know that I didn’t get totally happy with this retail therapy but it is too hard to say goodbye to this habit, so I started from small changes.

Everything starts In Your Mind. Your brain is really powerful, I started to say NO every time I want to go shopping when I am upset. Nothing wrong with shopping or retail therapy but any excessive behavior is not good. It is not gonna be easy but put in your mind that this behavior can’t give you what a real happiness, instead you will end up buy things you don’t really like just for the sake of satisfaction.

So what did I do instead of wasting money for things I will regret later?

Think That My Problem Wouldn’t be Solved Even though I Shop A Lot

I said to myself that solving the problem is so much different from shopping. I need to be more mature in coping with problems and situation.

Prepare A Piggy Bank

Whenever I feel the urge to buy things that I know I will regret later, I throw my money to the piggy bank, so later I can use this saving to buy things I like.

Find Activity you Like

Exercise at home, biking at the park, baking at home, painting to express your feeling, anything you like to do that brings joy to you.

Helping Others

Join any volunteer or charity work in the community, the feeling when you give out something to people in need is priceless.

Learning Some New Skill

The idea of learning new skill is really therapeutic for me, the feeling of achievement really satisfying beside look into the positive side, you have new skill. It could be learn video editing, design, cooking, etc.

Donate Stuff That I Don’t Need Anymore

Instead of shopping and pile things at my wardrobe or at the garage, I choose to donate good things which are still in good condition for those in need.

Redecorate My Room

Whether you live in a studio apartment, small or big house, re-decorating your room can make you feel fresher and joyful in your own place.

How To Be Attractive Woman

Being attractive for me is not about being perfect, when you say beauty, there is no beauty standard for me, all beauty standards are made by human and all beauty standards will be vary and different. But what matter the most is personality, I believe people with good personality are the best, good personality will make you more attractive.

It is okay to put so much effort on your look, wearing nice outfits, go to spa, whiten your teeth, anything for self care and beauty, but other than being pretty on the outside women also should be pretty on the inside, so they would be more attratctive.

Simple things to be more attractive women

Smile

Smile is just a little gesture to make your day brighter, and this simple thing is infectious, it can affect people around you to feel more comfortable, happy and positive. When your colleagues pass by at the hallway why don’t you smile and greet them? When you buy coffee, put on a friendly face when you place your order. Be friendly and smile!

Talk nicely

I met several people who is pretty, but they don’t have attitude I would say! They talk really loud, snapping, scolding other people and for me it is a turn off. For me be a woman with attitude, you will look more attractive when you talk nicely, you will be respected when you can respect others.

Don’t Be A Gossip Queen

Trust me you don’t want to be a gossip queen when in the end people will dislike you. Caring for others are totally different from being a gossip queen. Gossiping, talking bad things about others will make you look worse!

Be Positive

Positivity is so infectious, when you become positive person, people around you will get infected. Showing people positive attitude, positive thinking not only give people surround you a good vibe but also make your look more attractive

Care For Other

As social beings we can’t live without others, caring for others do not mean we must do great things, just asking how your friends doing? Call your colleague when you know she’s sick and asking how is her condition. Sending cookies to your neighbor when you bake them.

I am a believer that simple things we do would make great impact in our live!

Enjoying Life While Living In a Tight Budget

We often hear that money can’t bring us happiness, but in life we need money for everything, right?

I know exactly how it feels, when you receive your salary, you wish to buy everything you want, but in the end it’s just a wish! You still have tons of bills to pay and it feels sucks sometimes. Even when you shop for your needs you really need to pay attention to your tight budget.

But, will you be grumpy all the time and miss a good things in life just because you live in a tight budget?

Off course not!

I think here are some things you can do when you live in a tight budget.

Make a grocery shopping list.

Stick to the list when you shop, so you will not buy things you don’t need. We often go to supermarket and be tempted by all the stuffs there and in the end we buy things we don’t need but simply just because we want it.

Less meat more veggies

I know how delicious steaks are and I also know how expensive they can be especially when we are living in a tight budget. But think of the positive side, eat more veggies will be good for our body. Eat red meat once a week, chicken or fish once or twice a weak, eat more veggies or other plant- based food.

Choose local products

Local products usually cheaper than imported products.

Cook at home

Cooking is always cheaper that eating out. Or some people love to buy frozen food, I know it’s simple and some of you might like it but trust me when you cook you save more money.

Make your own coffee

The smell of the coffee at the coffee shop nearby the office always so tempting, but you will realize how much money you save once you make your own coffee.

Enjoy free things

If you go to movie you can’t get ticket for free, go to amusement park and also you have to buy tickets. So why don’t you go to the park, exercise in the morning, get fit. Or go the park and have picnic with your friends. On the day you want to be alone, just grab a book you want to read and read it in the park.

Watching at home

Now you can enjoy movies at home since there are youtube, netflix, iflix, etc.

Give present for yourself

Once a month, give present for yourself. Buy a cake you want, or tea you would like to try, or anything you really want that is not a necessity but the price range should be still in your budget.

I know living in a tight budget is not what we want, but sometimes life give us things we don’t want to but still we have to go through it. The most important things is how we manage our life to get through the hard time.

Activity Ideas during Quarantine

How long have you been staying at home? 2 weeks? a month? or more? have you felt bored already?

Here are some activity ideas you can do at home.

Learn something new

Learn new skill while you are staying at home. Maybe you’ve wanted to learn something but had no time, now you got plenty of time! Learn new skills, you can learn it online for free or take online course, webinar. So by the time this quarantine end, you’ve had already got new skill and you didn’t waste your quarantine time by doing nothing.

Let’s cooking

Everybody needs to eat, so why don’t you try new recipes, or cook from scratch since you have plenty of time. If you have kids, cook or bake something with them, I believe it will be fun!

Be crafty

Learn to make craft, painting or something simple like coloring a coloring book. Because as I know art can help reduce stress and make you feel calmer.

Organizing

Organize your stuff, because clean and tidy room can make you feel happier!

Gardening

Make your garden more beautiful, or if you don’t have much space you can buy plants as your room decor. I recently interested in succulent. And I want to have more!

Work out

Work out regularly to maintain your health!

Reading

Find books that you love, or any self- development books to enrich your knowledge and improve yourself.

Baking

I know not all people love baking. But try to bake something easy such as muffins, brownies or cookies. For me baking is really addictive. And I can sell them on any bake sale event. It’s good for side hustle too.

Call your friends and family

We usually too busy with our daily routine, but now since we got plenty of time, we can re- connect with old friends, zooming or calling friends and family members.

Netflix

Sometimes what you need is the art of doing nothing, simply just enjoy movies you like.